Attachment Coach
A self-reflection

What's your attachment style?

25 statements, about 5 minutes. Answer based on your typical reactions in your current or most recent romantic relationship — not just one exceptional moment.

Educational only · Not a diagnosis

01

I am comfortable depending on my partner for emotional support.

02

I feel at ease when my partner depends on me.

03

I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner.

04

I can share my feelings with my partner without worrying they will reject me.

05

When I am upset, I feel confident that my partner will be there for me.

06

I often worry my partner will lose interest in me.

07

I frequently need reassurance that my partner still loves me.

08

If my partner does not respond quickly, I fear something is wrong in the relationship.

09

I worry that I care more about my partner than they care about me.

10

I spend a lot of time thinking about whether my partner truly wants to be with me.

11

I feel uncomfortable when my partner is too emotionally close.

12

I prefer to handle my problems on my own rather than asking my partner for help.

13

I don't like feeling that my partner 'needs' me too much.

14

When my partner is upset, I tend to pull away rather than move closer.

15

It is important to me to stay very independent, even in a serious relationship.

16

During conflict, my feelings can become so intense that it is hard to think clearly.

17

When I feel hurt, I react strongly and it can be hard to calm down.

18

In arguments, I sometimes say or do things I later regret because I feel overwhelmed.

19

I sometimes both want my partner to come close and want to push them away at the same time.

20

When my partner tries to talk about problems, I either get very clingy or suddenly shut down.

21

Deep down, I believe I am lovable and worthy of care in relationships.

22

I expect that close relationships can be a safe, supportive place.

23

I am afraid that people who get close to me will eventually hurt or betray me.

24

I feel torn between wanting closeness and fearing it will end badly.

25

I often feel confused about what I really want in relationships.

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