25 statements, about 5 minutes. Answer based on your typical reactions in your current or most recent romantic relationship — not just one exceptional moment.
Educational only · Not a diagnosis
I am comfortable depending on my partner for emotional support.
I feel at ease when my partner depends on me.
I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner.
I can share my feelings with my partner without worrying they will reject me.
When I am upset, I feel confident that my partner will be there for me.
I often worry my partner will lose interest in me.
I frequently need reassurance that my partner still loves me.
If my partner does not respond quickly, I fear something is wrong in the relationship.
I worry that I care more about my partner than they care about me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about whether my partner truly wants to be with me.
I feel uncomfortable when my partner is too emotionally close.
I prefer to handle my problems on my own rather than asking my partner for help.
I don't like feeling that my partner 'needs' me too much.
When my partner is upset, I tend to pull away rather than move closer.
It is important to me to stay very independent, even in a serious relationship.
During conflict, my feelings can become so intense that it is hard to think clearly.
When I feel hurt, I react strongly and it can be hard to calm down.
In arguments, I sometimes say or do things I later regret because I feel overwhelmed.
I sometimes both want my partner to come close and want to push them away at the same time.
When my partner tries to talk about problems, I either get very clingy or suddenly shut down.
Deep down, I believe I am lovable and worthy of care in relationships.
I expect that close relationships can be a safe, supportive place.
I am afraid that people who get close to me will eventually hurt or betray me.
I feel torn between wanting closeness and fearing it will end badly.
I often feel confused about what I really want in relationships.
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