The four attachment styles.
Attachment styles describe the patterns we learned early in life for getting close to other people, and for protecting ourselves when closeness felt unsafe. They quietly shape how we love, argue, and repair as adults. None of them is a life sentence. Every style can move toward secure.
Secure
Comfortable with both closeness and space. Trusts, repairs, and asks for what they need directly.
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Anxious
Craves closeness and fears losing it. Reaches louder when the connection feels uncertain.
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Avoidant
Values independence and self-reliance. Pulls back when intimacy starts to feel like pressure.
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Fearful-Avoidant (also called disorganized)
Wants closeness and fears it at the same time. Caught in a push and pull between reaching and retreating.
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